Aging Well

February 11th, 2010

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My Prayer Sisters and I talk often about aging gracefully. We discuss face lifts and sagging body parts and how to lose those few stubborn,  bulging  pounds that didn’t used to rest just so on our hineys like they do now.  But we also touch on the more sensitive issues of the heart—like how NOT to turn into a crotchety old crank in a nursing home someday.

So when I received an email about “Aging Well” from my mentor and sister-in-law, Rita Hauck, I paid special attention. I have to admit I was startled, and okay, convicted, by some of my own character flaws as I read the honest prayer of a 17th century nun. I am now joining this noble woman in the following prayer for grace to age well.  

(A devotional thought from Elizabeth Elliot’s book, Gateway to Joy - Reflections that draw us nearer to God)

 

 “Asking for Grace to Age Well”…

 

                “Lord, You know better than I know myself that I am getting older and will someday be old. 

Keep me from… the fatal habit of thinking I must say something on every subject and on every occasion.  Release me from craving to straighten out everybody’s affairs.  Make me thoughtful but not moody, helpful but not bossy.  With my vast store of wisdom it seems a pity not to use it all, but You know, Lord, that I want a few friends at the end. 

Keep my mind from the recital of endless details - give me wings to come to the point. 

Seal my lips on my aches and pains.  They are increasing, and my love of rehearsing them is becoming sweeter.  I dare not ask for grace enough to enjoy the tales of others’ pains, but help me to endure them with patience. 

I dare not ask for improved memory, but for a growing humility and a lessening cocksureness when my memory seems to clash with the memories of others.  Teach me the glorious lesson that occasionally I may be mistaken. 

Keep me reasonably sweet.  I do not want to be a saint - some of them are so hard to live with - but a sour old person is one of the crowning works of the devil. 

Give me the ability to see good things in unexpected places, and talents in unexpected people.  And give me the grace to tell them so.”

 

See what I mean? If we pray for God’s grace to apply these principles to our Prayer Sisters friendships, we’ll all be sweet little old ladies some day. Bring it on.

  1. Shelly Steig
    February 12th, 2010 at 08:19 | #1

    And, also Lord. Please help me keep my sense of humor through all these consequences of aging! :)

  2. February 12th, 2010 at 11:15 | #2

    YES,YES, that is exactly my prayer. I can really relate to the part where she says
    “Keep me from… the fatal habit of thinking I must say something on every subject and on every occasion. Release me from craving to straighten out everybody’s affairs. Make me thoughtful but not moody, helpful but not bossy. With my vast store of wisdom it seems a pity not to use it all, but You know, Lord, that I want a few friends at the end”.

    Wow, isn’t neat to know that other women feel and have felt the same way as we do at times, and that we have a “Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, who can redeem us from all our sins!!

    Thank you for sharing this with us, dear “prayer sis”. May God be glorified through PSI!

    Hugs,
    Me

  3. Lindsey O’Connor
    February 13th, 2010 at 10:34 | #3

    I love this! A laugh and a truth at the same time. My favorite.

  4. March 8th, 2010 at 11:27 | #4

    I love the PEACE with growing older than this imparts. Such truth!